Three ways I am pretending to deal with my emotions, when I am actually perpetuating them:
1. Not Doing Anything to Help Myself
It is easy to feel like a victim. Yet every effort toward well-being counts. When I stop making effort, the cycle of helplessness becomes stronger. The less I make active decisions, the more powerless I feel.
The more I start to look at ways to better myself, the mere act of this awareness creates hope.
2. Avoiding Responsibilities
My problems can tempt me to feel exempt from life. Pain can become an excuse. Ironically, this can lead to an attachment to depression, anxiety, etc. as it can keep me in a comfort zone lacking accountability.
I always feel better when I take care of what I need to do. A feeling of competence has always helped me to feel like I matter.
3. Lying in Bed
No one can deny the need to rest. Other times, I use rest as avoidance. The difference lies in what my integrity tells me. True rest will leave me feeling restored. If time in bed leaves me with a sinking feeling, I know I'm not really happy with that decision, and that's certainly not a restorative state.
Energy builds energy. Action creates momentum.
I have struggled with all three points at certain times in my life. It helps me to review this now and again, so I maintain the self-awareness to correct these common pitfalls.
